Manners are not dead!

Recently, I had a talk with a woman friend about the manners and if they still work. Her answer? YES !

And it`s not only about this one friend, manners generally do work. So go ahead and use them !

I made a list with the MUST MANNERS:
-Open the door for her (including the car`s door)
-Pull her chair
-When entering the restaurant, the man walks in first
-When getting off the buss, the man exits first and holds the woman`s hand to help her
-When walking down the street, the man walks on the side with the road

I really hope you will use these manners, you will have a big plus with women if you do.

Instant Messaging – Be Warned!

I`m going to talk a bit about this thing called Instant Messaging…

I bet that it is being used by the shy guys to pick-up women. Don`t get me wrong, it`s ok to use it, but it has TONS of risks/disadvantages.
Over Instant Messaging you might get a wrong opinion about a person – you might conclude that the person is better/worse than it is in reality. But this is just the part where YOU make conclusions…

Remember that if you ask a woman a question over instant messaging you might never get a reply, which is unlikely in the real world. If she answers with delays/laggy , you might get the false impression that she is not really interested in you. OK, she might not be interested in you, or simply she might have  a laggy connection or other stuff to do around her room.

To take another example, you might have a GREAT conversation with a certain woman one night over Instant Messaging, and the night ahead she might reject you completely, not answering to yout flirts like she did one day ago. I cannot tell you why, but this is really happening. But if you talked to her in real life, this would never have happened. Or even it did (lets presume),  her body language would have given you a reason.

Take this little story: You talked to a hottie over IM, you flirted with her and she flirted back. Everything was so brilliant, you feel like you`re a genius. Ok genius, now what? You kiss her? HOW ??? (believe me, it doesn`t work kissing the monitor.) Let`s presume that you set up a date. When you meet her in real life she might be shocked by your real looks/personality. 
Now that would be sooo cool! 

As a conclusion, I recommend NOT USING INSTANT MESSAGING FOR FLIRTING. Instead of asking a woman her IM ID, you should better ask her for her phone number and set up a date OVER THE PHONE. The flirting should be done face-to-face.
You may use Instant Messaging if you are too shy to talk face-to-face or you really don`t have the opportunity to meet her for real, but always be ready for a great dissappointment.

Action Triggers

Action Triggers, or how to make a girl kiss you!

Every guy, at least once in his life, encountered a situation like this: he had a great time with one particular girl, they talked a lot, had loads of fun, an now they sit near each other doing nothing. The guy wants to kiss her, but he thinks ‘what if she rejects me? maybe i shouldn`t try’ .

It is known that you can not possibly know 100% what to expect from a girl. A thought of rejection will always go through your mind before making your step. I am going to teach you how to avoid the circumstances mentioned at the beginning of this article. How? Very simple. And now, i won`t tell you ‘just go for it and kiss her’. I won`t tell you this because she might really reject you, even if you had a great time. This doesn`t mean that you shouldn`t just go for it sometimes, but do it only if you are sure that she will be pleased with it. For more info about knowing for sure if she is interested, read the article about body language.

Now, let`s get back to the basics of this tactic. You are in the following situation: next to a girl, you had a great time together. You want to kiss her,but you can`t interpret her body language, and therefore you can`t tell if she will reject you or not. In this case, it`s time for Action Triggers.

What are action triggers? In short words, making HER kiss you, so you won`t risk a thing. To provoke a kiss by her, you must ‘trigger’ her. Say some appropriate words in appropriate situations. Let`s take an example: After a great day together, you and her ar hugging each other in the windy alley. It`s cold outside. In this particular case, a trigger could be saying to her: ’Now that we`re so close to each other, i feel like it`s getting warmer’. This should do the trick 90% of the times, but remember, ONLY if you had a great time together, otherwise she will just think you`re awkward.

Before going on a date, try to guess what you will be doing at the end of it, and invent a ‘trigger’ that will work in that situation. You might even use the exemplified one, if it matches the situation (cold outside, you are close to each other).

I hope this will broaden your vision about dating tactics. It`s all about planning, even in dating.

A Bad Example…

I was roaming in a cafe with my cousin a couple of days ago, and i overheard a conversation, a guy trying to pick up a hottie. Damn he was so lame! I felt that i should give him as a BAD example on my blog.

To describe his style best, he was begging her! The hottie just couldn`t stop laughing at him, and he though he was funny and kept going. He bought her lots of (expensive) drinks. After a while, the hottie`s date came and that poor guy almost cried.

Well… remember: never beg a girl ! Unless you want to get dumped before she knows your name.

Top Dating Rules

I`m sure you wanna know them. They`re simple and easy to follow – and might bring your Christmas gift early this year.

 

1. If a girl says she’s not interested, she’s NOT interested!

2. When asking a girl out, do NOT insult her in any way! (this doesn’t mean to be a wuss)

3. Compliment something about the girl’s outfit, regardless as to whether you like it or not. 

4. Mentioning other girls is a big NO! 

5. Don’t make the girl pay for herself, even if she offers. 

6. Be a gentleman (pull her chair out for her, open the car door, pay, whatever works). 

7.  BE ON TIME (it may seem dorky, but the girl will appreciate it). 
8. You shouldn`t apologise for the most insignificant reasons.
9. Try to have a good social status; if you don’t, try to hide it.
10. Be strong! Even in the most difficult situation, be positive on things, you should inspire optimism.
11. Learn some jokes! Being funny is one of the most important factors that attracts a girl. If you are funny, she knows she won’t be bored with you. Don`t forget, don`t exagerate!

All the rules mentioned above are important. They are not presented in the order of importance.

How to turn a Hottie into a Date

At least once in your life, you met a girl and you wanted to get her, but you just didn`t know hot to turn to the romantic side. So, when you talk to a girl you`ve just met, how exactly do you turn her into your date?

Step 1
After getting into a discussion with the girl of your choice, just ask her about herself, and keep the words about YOURSELF as SHORT AS POSSIBLE.

Step 2
When the discussion is about to end (when you or her need to leave), just ask her for her phone number, ‘to chat again sometimes’. If the discussion between you and her went fine, she will just give you her phone number. You will later use this phone number to ask her on a date.
*DO NOT ask her for her Instant Messaging ID or e-mail. Even if she gives you these, she will just think you`re too shy to talk over the phone and will never go on a date with you.

Step 3
Do not call her for the following 3 to 5 days. If you call her before that, you will just expose yourself as a desperate.

Step 4
Prepare a phone conversation on paper. Just write everything you are going to say. Anticipate what she might ask you, and write down the best responses. Read the articles on InformedMan.com in order to prepare the best conversation ever. Don`t keep short, write every possible situation with extreme care.
*Have multiple places where to go prepared. YOU are the one who should set the place. You can find a list of places to go on a date here.

Step 5
After the 3 to 5 days mentioned above, make the call. It is recommended that you make this call on friday or in the weekend. Just say what you have previously written, with the sheet of paper right in front of you, but seem natural.

Step 6
Have fun during your date!

Foreplay

I want to share with you an article which you might find extremely interesting. It`s about foreplay.

What is foreplay?

Foreplay is what we indulge in before we have actual penetrative sex in some form or other. In theory, foreplay lasts a lot longer than sex itself, because foreplay can last anything from minutes before you have sex to all day before you have sex. Foreplay is about building up to sex.

My girlfriend wants me to spend more time on foreplay, why?

We are built a little bit differently to guys, and we do need to have some more arousal through foreplay at times. I’m not saying that women can’t go from 0 to 80 in a few minutes. Occasionally, we forget about foreplay altogether. however, in general we need that bit more extra stimulation before we get to penetrative sex.

How long should a foreplay last?

Foreplay needs to last until the woman feels fully stimulated, fully aroused and ready for penetration. You need to negotiate with your partner where foreplay stops. Does she want to have an orgasm before penetrative sex, in which case you need to continue your foreplay with each other until then. Men also like a lot of foreplay – be it giving massage, or things like that, so foreplay can last, to my mind, for hours and hours. For example, you can be in separate places and send text messages and e-mails, and that’s a form of foreplay. Then, when you get home you have sex. However, in general if you’re talking about purely close body contact, physical foreplay, it’s probably going to last, if you want an average, fifteen minutes to half an hour.

Is there a right way to kiss?

There is not a right way to kiss, but the important thing about kissing is that you need to keep your lips and your face relaxed. If you kiss somebody who’s unrelaxed, if they don’t relax their mouth, you tend not to get that much pleasure from the kiss. People who are good kissers, you can feel they’re almost like dancers. They’ve got this way of allowing the face to become more in the mouth, to become more mobile than people who are more afraid of kissing. There isn’t a right way to do it. Some people find it very easy to kiss well, while other people are a little bit more nervous about it and feel more inhibited. The main thing is to keep it all relaxed around here, and try to enjoy it, and go into it deep. Obviously, there are times when you might want to decide whether you’re going to use your tongue, and all that sort of thing, but relaxation is the key.